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Thank you for this heart felt sharing about the pilgrimage your undertook to your ancestor's grave. What an act of love! I appreciate how you shared in that search that "This little ritual of bringing the flowers ‘full circle’ felt somehow important, like it brought closure to something that had waited, untended for a long time." That that simple, loving closure felt like one of the primary reasons the pilgrimage had been undertaken.. And I loved how you posited the possibility that all the feelings of love and grief that mysteriously and powerfully washed over you could have been "lying dormant, awaiting an outlet?.. Asking the question if trauma is transmitted through generations, why not grief and love? Really questioning how much of what we carry really isn't ours!" You certainly FELT your experience deeply given how far away these ancestors were from your present experience. I really honor you for taking the time out of your full life, to do this ritual of completion, whatever that might mean for you and your ancestors.. just because you love so deeply. Thank you for holding and modeling that kind of care for your/our ancestors! It is inspiring!! ariel spilsbury

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